Have you ever tried on a pair of shoes that were awesome but didn’t really fit … but, you decided to buy them anyway? You probably ended up wearing them only once or twice, really hoping maybe they would stretch, or you would break them in enough for them to fit.
You wish they would fit but really they didn’t, they remained uncomfortable. Actually, from the moment you tried them on for the first time you knew they were not a good fit.
In my 20’s I often found myself in this situation. It was a weird habit that quickly spread to my life, especially my work life. I remember a specific job interview where I had completed my studies, had no idea what I was going to do with the degree, got an interview, it wasn’t the right fit; but, I was definitely desperate to find a job. I decided to say yes to the job offer even though it was the perfect checklist of everything I DID NOT want in a job.
And, do you know why this happened? Do you understand why the employer didn’t pick up on my being the wrong fit? Because I played the part. I knew how to present myself in a way that the employer would want to hire me. Society had prepared me perfectly to “fit” into jobs, instead of my finding (or even creating) a job that would support the expression of my personality, values, interests, and talents. This became my job from hell.
I know, this is an intense statement, but I like to talk about this event in my life because after having that experience, I promised myself that I would never, ever, ever put myself in a similar situation. And, although I never reached career hell again, it did take longer than anticipated to realize I was harming myself (my health suffered on more than one occasion). But, when I finally consciously decided that listening to my heart would become a priority, things started going more smoothly in my life. I won’t pretend that it’s simple and I do it all the time. However, I do follow my heart for the very important decisions, the ones that will have a major impact on my life and that stir up a lot of fear. And, I can help you do the same …
I want to help you bring more meaning to your “work” life and feel more fulfilled in your “career” thanks to your purpose.
So, here’s my advice to help you get closer to your “dream career.”
It’s really all about gaining clarity. Get clear about what you really want. It’s so much more than a job title. It’s your day to day routine and activities a.k.a. your purpose, your talents, your values, basically everything that’s important to you. It’s asking yourself questions about the physical and social environments of your ideal workplace. It’s deciding how long you want to commute as well as choosing at what time you will start and finish your day. It’s the time you take to reflect and develop the confidence to say it out loud – “it” being what you really want, without the fear that you will “jinx” the outcome! Yes, you have the freedom to make these types of choices and to decide what your “career” will look like, regardless of what people (i.e., friends, family, supervisors) are telling you about life.
The first step to find your dream job is to get clear about what you really want so you can wake up in the morning anticipating your work week ahead.
Don’t hesitate to contact me with your dream career-related questions!