Sometimes when we dig deep into the different “what if” situations that pop into our minds around a given situation that elicits fear, we come to realize that our deepest fear is the fear of death. Somewhere we actually started believing that making a ”bad” decision could lead to death!
Something REALLY bad might happen…
When I was completing my Master of Art in Counseling Psychology, I took a course on death and dying. During that course, it dawned on me how afraid I was to die. But the tragedy of this fear wasn’t actually death itself. It was the realization that this fear I was now conscious of had been the underlying motivation in my life and it had been keeping me from living life fully.
I was SO afraid to die — I had conditioned myself to fear living life!
My life had consisted of staying within the parameters of my comfort zone to ensure my survival.…
By not living a full life, I erroneously felt I was keeping myself safe from an accidental death (before the ripe age of 80+, ideally). However, the irony of this situation is that I was basically anticipating my death on a semi daily basis.
Always afraid …
Well, that death and dying course definitely kicked me in the butt and I started asking myself at the end of each day, “If I were to die tonight, did I live a full life today? Can I die peacefully?” and this became an ongoing habit that helped me live the full life I’m living today.
Morbid? Maybe. But the constant reminder of my imminent death unbeknownst to me, gave me back my life!
Whenever I sense I am living in fear, playing small, staying within safe parameters, I still stop and ask myself, “If I died tomorrow, what would I do differently?” and that thought gives me the motivation to keep choosing the option my heart truly desires, knowing at least that if death came knocking at my door, I did all I could with the life I had.
Believe it or not, I’m less afraid of dying now that I’ve given myself permission to live!
The new year is always a time to reflect and make BIG life changing decisions.
Like that dream that’s been itching at you for the last 5 years that you’ve kept ignoring. You might have already decided that this year will be the year you pursue the dream. And you might have already forgotten that last year you had already made this same promise to yourself.
So, my question for you today is: What’s SO important to you today, that if you died tomorrow, you would regret not having accomplished this very specific dream?
Write it down.
Now, don’t let another year go by where you forget how important it is for you to feel alive. How your Soul is yearning to express herself fully! How vital it is to take risks and trust that everything will be OK.
Don’t let your blind spots and habits make the decisions for you this year. Break the cycle by taking the time to explore your fears, to break them down and to receive guidance towards living a life you genuinely love, that gets you excited to wake up in the morning, and leaves you with a deep feeling of inner peace at the end of the day.
Inspiring YOU to Live a Life you LOVE!
This blog is dedicated to the 63 Canadians who weren’t expecting death on January 8th, 2020. I hope they were living a full life and for those who were too young to have fully experienced life – I hope their lives were filled with love.